To dare to speak – even when you don't master the language

Many people choose not to go to France because the language can be a barrier. French is not a language most Danes learn, and the French have a reputation for not being very good at English.

But our experience is that even though their English skills may be limited, the French are often incredibly helpful and service-minded. They make an effort to understand what you mean.

I learned French in high school and have always wanted to get better, but the biggest challenge has actually been believing in my own abilities. Often I understand more than I think.

I think you should get a shopping cart!

I was reminded of that one day in Carrefour. I had gone in to buy a few things, but by then I had filled my arms well. When I got to the checkout, the cashier said something to me in French. I looked at her a little confused because I was sure I hadn't understood what she meant. The cashier was very persistent, so while the checkout line was waiting, she got a colleague who knew a little English.

When the message was translated, I realized that I had actually understood most of it. The cashier was just telling me to pick up a shopping cart from the parking lot. She simply thought I had bought more than I could carry and offered to keep an eye on my items while I did so.

What should I do? - What should I do?

Today, of course, we also use translation apps and other digital tools. They can be fantastic in everyday life and help with everything from shopping to contacting authorities. But for me, technology can't completely replace human contact. I would like to be able to have a small conversation with my neighbor, the clerk, and my service man who takes care of the pool and lawn. It is often in these small conversations that you learn both the language and the culture best.

So what can you do if you want to get better?

The simple answer is that you learn a language by using it. But I'm not in France every day, and Bjarne doesn't speak French either.

So the solution was Duolingo. The little language app has really made a difference. I've now spoken French every day for 76 days straight – about half an hour a day – and wait, I can feel the progress.

Now I'm just looking forward to the next trip to France, where we'll surprise the neighbor and invite him to a barbecue on the terrace - there are only three weeks left.